dear friend

you better have changed your cell phone number by now

so this is what i read from glamour mag (august 2009 issue):
titled: stalking: are you safe

1) don't be lax about your e-security
give only close friends access to your facebook page and twitter feed. be choosy about who receives your email address
2) be firm with pesky guys
if a guy is contacting you and you're not interested, "reply - just once - to his text or email, 'don't text me,' period. don't give him a glimmer of hope" says detective deirdri fishel, a domestic violence specialist with the state college police dept. in Pennsylvania.
3) know when to change your passwords
"if you break up with someone who's angry or difficult, reset your passwords, even if you think he doesn't know them," says alexis moore, founder of survivors in action, a nonprofit that helps crime victims.
4) print, record, gather evidence.
if you're being harrassed, be sure to print emails, take a pic of your computer or cell phone screen, save voice mail messages - perserve every piece of pertinent communication immediately. "The instinct is to hit delete, but that makes the case much harder to prosecute," says fishel.
5) report it
"the pattern i hear over and over from women is 'it started out annoying, and then it became creepy ... and then it became scary,'" says fishel. don't ignore your instincts, and if something triggers your inner alarm, call a domestic violence hotline (try 800-799-7233) or the police, and ask for a special victims officer. "never feel silly reporting something," says seattle dective mark jamieson. "we can help keep you safe."

you may reach out to me anytime and you know that
you are not alone in this, you have family, friends, and neighbors, and the law, to protect and support you
don't talk to that douche no more
take care, Linda